Monthly Archives: October 2010

Don’t miss out on a blessing, just because it is not packaged the way you expect!

Life sometimes, we think plays cruel tricks on us. That’s what we feel mostly when things go slightly haywire, or unexpected. Most of the time, we are too wary of change, that we usually regard the event that is happening is less for the better and more for the worse. What we forget is that, sometimes blessings come in an off-hand manner. I mean not in the expected way, but if we graciously accept what we get; the outcome goes beyond our wildest imagination.

Sometimes, it’s those little things that we do graciously that leads us to bigger and better things. Those first times you may have done the props for school programme must have taught you about stage management, which would later help in the college concerts or in bigger events like managing a fund-raiser, a charity show or even an auction. The little chances that we get in assisting major or minor surgeries, or as an aide to a major development project would play a role in the future professional life. Even if you get the tiniest role or chance, do it with grace and poise. Don’t just grumble and throw it away; for every little chance is a gift and each gift is a blessing to learn something new. But that doesn’t account for you to sit back with folded hands and watch the world move by, either!!!

I am sure most of us know the story of the teenager and his graduation present. To sum up the email I got,

A young man was getting ready to graduate college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted. As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible. Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said, "With all your money you give me  a Bible?" and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things. When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and
regret filled his heart. He began to search his father's important papers and saw the ‘still new Bible’, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he read those   words, a car key dropped from an envelope taped behind the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words...PAID IN FULL.

Sad, but true story. How many times have I missed many a blessing because it was not packaged the way I expected ? To tell you truth, I am ashamed to say but I have lost count. I think it’s high time I take baby steps and make a change in my approach to the chances given to me, before it gets too late.


Reflecting through the leaves

Late yesterday, I was gazing out onto the lawn. Fall was in full mode, and as usual there was a mess for the gardeners to clean up by morning. It was the leaves that set my thoughts in motion. Have you ever seen a leaf unfurl ?! It first has to form a small teeny weeny green point on the branch and then it unfurls out through the spring and summer days. Each one has a story to tell and a world to see. Some wither and die. Some further branch out and unfurl out into different shapes and sizes. Some get diseased and die out. Others change colours with the change of season adding to the beauty around.

But each one has a story to tell. A story of rays of sunshine and early morning dew , of droplets of rain and little crawlies of nature, of nests, of various views. At the end, they all had something to contribute, either add to someone’s joy and laughter, or witness sorrows, inspire thoughts and creativity. Which is how sometimes, our lives reflect to be. Sometimes, along the road there will come a time when we have to stand alone. We have to make sacrifices, approach reality and redefine our goals so that the final target can be achieved. All this requires courage from within, the seed of self-confidence and the willingness to take risks. To not settle for anything less than the best, requires a deep sense of aim from within. We need to get out of our comfort zones and familiar faces, recognize and grab opportunities and discover our true purpose in life.

Find your inner light and let it lead you on. Don’t shy away from what you really want. For that, staying in somebody else’s shadows won’t help. We need to follow the rays of sunlight and find out our own patterns, for like every leaf we all have a special story to witness and experience in life.


Mid autumn hails..

Yesterday, it was “hailstone-ing” out here. It happened around mid afternoon, to mark the beginning of the cold, dusky days and the end of the torrid sweaty days. For once, all hospital work came to a standstill ( just for a few seconds !!) as all gazed out. It was pretty interesting to listen to the various comments circulating around. ” Will our car windows get scratched ?!!” ” How are we going to get back home ?!” ” We’ll get pretty late today!!” ,”Cancel the evening meeting, we won’t be able to make it!!”…..But the loudest was by the kids, “Let’s go  out, it’s hailstones!!” and ” Yay, it’s raining out here !!” The last these little things came down was about ten years ago !! A day later, i.e. today the atmosphere is pretty vibrant out here. Lighter woolens are in now, with  scarves ( my personal favs!!) gaining a lot of popularity, hot cups of cocoa  and loads of soup.

The entire season change has affected the mood around . In a way, basic human nature is similar. We all have different colors to add to life. Each person has their own flavor to give. But, in the end the basic principles remain the same. Like, each hailstone we come in different shapes and sizes, but each of us have a unique fingerprint. True, hailstones have immense potential to cause huge damage; but it’s one of nature’s natural events. Depending on the altitude of fall, it has potential to cause immense loss. Come to think of it, it follows the natural cycle of life and destruction. Something like the gift that we have, to bring about another positive change in this world no matter how small it may be or to sit back and just be passive viewers.

Well , I am pretty much in a reflective mood today. Every incident has something to offer us, no matter how hopeless it may seem to be. Have a nice day !!


When rudeness becomes a habit..

Why am I writing this ?! I mean I deal with patients and people on a daily basis. Nothing new indeed, to be confronted by someone loud and noisy, or to have someone next to me yelling while I am using the hospital intercom or to have a conversation with my colleague or senior to be ” interrupted” in a manner, that forces us to give a reply or else be bugged relentlessly. But this little incident, which happened the other day,  holds the first spot in the ” best ten rude encounters” in my life.

The venue is the ultrasound room, wherein are seated three radiologists each in their respective year of study, ie first, second and third. I had come in with a patient with progressive hydrocephalus. As usual the file was given first, while I launched into a mini patient summary.  And what was the third year doing, giving orders to the second year while cross questioning me. Did she take the time to read the file ? Nope. Look for any previous ultrasounds ? Nope. What did she do ? Ask me when was the last scan done ?! Pretty easy to say the dates as the reports, all the previous four were in her hand!! Who did the last scan ? Voila, it was her !! No remarks to that, she had !! Her voice was so lovely that even the professor came in wondering where all the music was coming from. To top it all, her next comment to the radiology technician, ” Ask your patient to shut up!!” How more polite and charming could she get !! Rudeness has become almost a habit with her. And so it has, for most of us. Agreed, certain instances cause us to be rude, but being  perpetually rude and irritated indicates something wrong within.

The whole point is that no matter how irritating the situation might have been, you have to maintain your cool. Your reaction willEven kittens don't like rude people, says a study.... leave an impression in everyone’s mind. If rudeness is in your voice, temper down. It doesn’t take much to politely ask about the previous reports or details. Nothing is lost, when instead of hounding anyone with questions, a few minutes are spent to read what’s in your hand. And never take out your anger or frustration out on another person who has absolutely nothing to do with the issue. I know it’s easier said than done, but how would you feel if you are at the receiving end. Believe, it stings like hell. Think of it, you cut in a queue cause you are in a rush; but think of the time lost in the sequential irritative dialog that follows. Today, everyone is busy, all are in a hurry; so wait for your turn, it ll come sooner than expected. As for this situation, I am sure it’s quite common in all work places, on the road, while shopping etc. Wonder why, because it doesn’t take much to be nice and polite !! Stay mild and even voiced, all will follow. And what to do about people like her, complaints and advices are useless. The best thing : ignorance is bliss. Who wants to acquaint or re-acquaint with them anyways ?!! Not me .


Weaving your own bit of nature

 


Image via Flickr:AUTUMN From Little♥Krawler

 

When You’re chewing on life’s gristle

Don’t grumble, give a whistle

And this’ll help things turn out for the best…

And…always look on the bright side of life…

Always look on the light side of life.
Monty Python’s Life of Brian

I saw this lovely snap on Flickr. It brought back memories of a high school incident wherein one of our science club experiments went haywire, but we still tried to put it up for the exhibition. (We did get a second!!) Everyone gets these trying moments, wherein which we get irritated, frustrated and royally annoyed. Somehow the lighter side is lost. We give into the emotions at that moment and then regrets follow. A spider’s web has two stories to follow; the web of pain, deceit and anger or a beautiful design of nature showing the ability of the spider, its spirit of resilience and its agility and strength irrespective of size. Which one would you look at ?!!


Along the boulevard

One of the boulevard scenesSometimes, all of a sudden the mood goes off and the feeling of sadness encroaches over. The realization comes over that at the end of the journey, we are essentially alone. Each to his own. Why do I say this ? Cause’ I am going to leave the first phase of medical school. I am going to enter another phase of my journey on. Most of the time I ll be alone. Along the way, I ll meet people; some who I may see after a long time or never again, some who become my acquaintances, some become friends and the others become life-keepers. But at each stop-point, I meet somebody; yet I am alone. This feeling sometimes swamps me over and the feeling of being overwhelmed begins. Yet all the while, somethings keeps on pushing you along the walk, you just move on. Maybe it is the desire to reach the end, or maybe we call it ‘life’ and just move on but we don’t stay at a single spot. The journey has to continue.

Face the fact, we all are mostly alone. We marry, have kids and raise a family, the outings with colleagues and friends; yet we have to go through the journey alone, fore go many things at a very heavy price but at the end, we move on. We stumble, we fall, we become bruised but we get up and continue the walk. We grow up; we mature. Each of us learn something from every experience. Sleepless, silent nights and restless days, they all lie in front of us. But so do some of the happy treasured moments, which pull us through these times. Broken dreams are far easier to find then broken glass!!!

If I go back to the days of “Green Day’s”- ‘ The Boulevard of Broken Dreams”; those lyrics surface every time I am forced to journey alone. Our shadows are always with us, but someone always finds us or we find them, along the way. But try standing at one place, you will loose more than what you catch !! The spirit to move on comes within. Everyone gets the feeling of uncertainty. No one will ever be immune to it. It would have been in your life at one point of time. Life allows you to fall, to stumble but never to sit back and let someone serve your platter. Celebrities, too for that matter are not immune to it.

As for the boulevards’ they are of various varieties: warm, dry, colorful, busy, dull, rainy, crowded; but at the end, you ll find your own one with your own little space. Till then, I have to move on. For matter how tire-some or irritating the journey; I will find someone on the way. As my Grand-pa used to say, “It’s a small world, after all!!!”

 


Suffering from “Brand”-aid ?!!

” Last night, I was going through the online shopping sites ; when I spotted an original leather (the ad said so!!) bag from Gucci from their new fall collection. That’s when it suddenly occurred to me that I had seen the same model in the market earlier that day !!!”

Sounds familiar, right ?! What struck me is that; almost every month, half my salary used to go on buying something outrageously expensive, that must be available for nearly quarter the same price in the downtown market. Whose going to wear the same thing twice anyways ?!! Coming to think of it, half my salary went up in smoke. Cause’ no matter whatever branded item I get, there is no point to it when my next-door neighbour can get the exact replica to the T ; and please don’t remind me how much I paid for it !! I thought that this was limited to just clothes, handbags and other us, ‘women’ items.

Apparently not so!, today morning my cousin brother had just finished cribbing on the phone on how much he had spent on his new laptop a month ago, only to find that a better model has hit the market !!! Should I be surprised !! Nope. Even in med school, when the new Nokia N series 78 and 96 came out in 2008, by the time a few of us could scrape even to get it, came along the new Xpress editions 5730,5330…But wt’s the point, coz’ N97 soon crashed in !!! Not going into Blackberry, Samsung Corby…blah! blah!

We, the consumer society are extremely “brand” crazy and latest editions crazy !! To be in tune is fine, but going completely overboard is not !! No one’s telling anyone to wear the 80’s look but that doesn’t mean that we have to splurge on all those designer wear, either. Look at ‘techno’, it’s changing at a very fast pace to keep up with. Tomorrow’s high end gadgets become today’s in techno
and today’s becomes, not yesterday’s but a century old. Totally out of proportion with change. Consequences, a very temporarily satisfied shopper, too many options, extreme homework before buying any item, absolute waste of time and to top it all, severely out-of-credit followed by the countless collector’s bills !! Ah the paranoia of a compulsive ‘brand’ shopper doesn’t end there !! The other day; Ann and I had to get a gift for one of our friends, and we ended up walking into at least five different ‘formal mens wear’ shop; each time telling the sales people there, we ll just come in five mins; do keep it for us !!! Cause’ there was no guarantee that our “branded” friend has heard of the new line of “Cotton County’s” French Revolution !! And no way, we could take a chance !!!

Agreed, that buying selective or reasonable brands is good, but don’t overdo it. No matter how expensive it is or how long the guarantee or warranty period holds, if it’s not properly used, it’s bound to go into ‘malfunction’ aka ‘wear and tear’ mode. As for duplication, no matter how many laws are enforced; it can’t be stopped completely. Remember the Archie’s’, Betty and V’s adventures; guess I have to be more like B before I end up in the gutter !!!

Brands need to be classified as  Sensible, Necessary, Not so Necessary, Rare Splurge and of course, Absolutely Useless. Symptoms of this fever catching on are : the five C ‘s….constant dissatisfaction of consumer goods, constant preying on other’s new stuff, constant expensive window and real shopping, constant overflow of bills and constantly getting logged onto the latest line for the sole purpose of flashing your credit card!! Cure !!! stopping brand shopping won’t help. Get a non-brand shopping friend and do an occasional splurge, nope… make it a very rare splurge. But please, do not buy every useless inexpensive item seen; shop wisely: that’s the answer !!!! similar to, thinking like a devil but shopping like an angel- quite a delicate balance to be struck. The post for ‘wise shopping tips’ is on the way. As for me, it’s time to visit the downtown stores !!!