Comparisons…life is full of them. Sometimes, when in a crisis that’s the last thing I need. Very often, I hear about the good ol’ neighbourhood tales of the “legends”. Oh Mr “So-and-So” and Mrs. “Goody-Two-Shoes”, way too perfect, married at the right age, got the right job, making the right amount of money, settled in the right place, a real role model in the neighbourhood, now running for the Mayor. It’s a darn pity that you didn’t turn out to be like them!!
Well damn right, I wouldn’t want to be like them. My life is not too planned out and lived by the schedule. I’m human, giving into the occassional emotions and moodswings but I darn well know what I want to know out of life. I may not run for the elections, I may not have all the “rights”, but I do enjoy my life, my experiences, and my achievements….No one ever needs to fill out phamlets of their achievements and distribute it around, to earn the halo of acceptance and recognition.
It is in moments like these, when the local “comparisions-to-do-today” gossip team takes over, that a twinge of self doubt and guilt is felt. But through the years, what I have learnt is that,
It’s okay to have fears… No it doesn’t mean that you have live by it, but rather the way you face them, the steps that you take to overcome them and use them to your advantage doesn’t define you as a coward…
It’s okay to make mistakes…to err is human afterall. How else is anyone supposed to learn. Each one has a different fit, and each one to his own size…
It’s okay to give up on some things…Sometimes giving up on the immediate pleasures and temptations may seem saddening at the moment but after a whil it fades off…instead there will be joy and contentment in the simple things of life….
It’s okay to be quiet sometimes…We all need our moments of silence and introspection. It’s only the empty vessels that go clanging 24 X 7…..
It’s okay to cry even when everyone laughs…it can be mistaken as tears of joy for all you know. Besides, keeping it pent up inside kind of ruins the day !!
It’s okay to laugh at d boss’s joke…If thay you are sucking up to the big guns, let them. Who cares about them anyways?!!
It’s okay to love d one who hates u…For then they will no longer have a real reason to hate you, and you don’t have to face early wrinkles and aging…
It’s okay to sing like a frog gone wild…for it boosts you up, and the rest doesn’t matter. Only, no law suit should be filed for “hearing-damage” !!
Unless, a personal joy and peace is found within, it’s useless earning all those big-bucks and playing the “power-position’ games. There’s more than enough trouble and misery in this world to go around, why add to it and be a part of the mess.
While the journey, only you would know how it goes, no matter how much any one guesses or figures out what to do, only you can call the shots and make the decisions. As it is, stepping into someone’s shoes is difficult, and hardly ever two shoes sizes match to a T.
Moreover, what matters is, if being what you are, makes you happy, go ahead and then be urself, it’s absolutely okay…