Nothing jarring or out of the blue happened today. Just the morning headlines, “ Tremors felt in New Delhi”, “Four killed in a collision”, “Libyan unrest still Prevails”….a pretty depressing start to the day. And the evening just ended with a hit-and-run accident in the ER ( Emergency Room), unfortunately the patient never made it.
Which is what brings me to the realisation that life is indeed frail or rather temporary, pure uncertainity is the underlining ring to it. One minute, I might be here ? Next minute, I can’t gurantee that. That’s why they say, make the best of every second that you get. Make your bucket list, do the things that you have always wanted to. But what about the people in your life ?! Relationships, they are precious and keeps me going through the tough times, makes memories that stay for a lifetime. But at times,I kind of dread that word. Why so ? Because,there are some relationships that have kind of fizzed out. To pin-point what lead to the rusting of these relationships, I don’t have a definite answer. Some of them became so, because I had my hands tied up with work and other interests, and didn’t bother keeping it alive. Others were inevitable good-byes, change of place, change of work and as very often the
statement runs, “too busy to keep in touch”. What hurts the most, are those relationships
which gate-crashed because time was never spent to sort out the mis-understandings. Those kind of relationships that Iwould hate to let go off, but I didn’t do the right thing then.That time then, I kind of shrugged it off saying maybe later.
But life, or as some call it fate or destiny intervenes or rather interferes. And before anyone knows it, it’ll be too late to mend the fences. Too late, because at the other end of the line, the person may no longer be there.
To put it down as a matter of fact, we all take relationships for granted, accepting the continued presence of the other person, and believing that no matter what happens, inspite of all the misunderstandings and lost connections; destiny will find a way out…
But sometimes, there is no way out, sometimes, destiny won’t bother with you, with me or with our emotions. It goes it’s own way…..
Sometimes that time is the last time…The last time that you would ever see the person, hear their voice, hold those interesting arguments and jokes that made your day…..Those are the relationships that end due to the inevitable play of fate. The feeling of regret and guilt eats your precious memories with that person and unless time steps in and tries to find a way to help you heal, you end up being a lost cause – the days of guilt, regert and misery.
But what about the rest of the relationships, where at the other end of the line, the person is still there, waiting for you, somewhere ? Unsorted misunderstandings, forgotten promises, harsh words, power play and back-kniving for the sake of power and prestige. There’s no need to shrink or cringe on realization about the latter. We humans, are known to be quite selfish by nature, that under the temptation of power and fame, we succumb too easily and play our chances, uncaring to the further consequences in life. But that’s where conscience, sensibility and honor later come into play. We rectify those mistakes made and try to re-bridge the connections.
But, sometimes, or rather many a time, when you turn your back on someone, they’ll turn their back on you too….What will you do then ? Shrug your shoulders and find someone else? Maybe…
Maybe for a while it will work out. But that someone else won’t be the same person who shared those funny moments, gave you that sincere advice, who held you hand and walked with you never asking you where or why…just walked with you all the way.
For people, unlike things don’t have replacements. Don’t loose them or someday you might, or rather we all would start feeling like a small fish in the ocean…And then it may be too late to clean up the mess in the closet and start the re-building phase. Each person is entitled to their opinions and interests. Disagreements shouldn’t breach the bonds, but rather in mutual self-acceptance you take the bonds further. No one is perfect and no can be expected to be so.
Relationships..their true value is ideally learnt only when it is actually lost but then it would be too late. Keep the bonds strong in
spite of all the disagreements, misunderstandings and honest conflicts, especially with those who have stuck with through the downhills and stayed on with you through the up-heavals of life. Don’t throw away the bonds, for no one ever knows whether tomorrow will come, and that your tomorrow would be seen thanks to the person of today, who was indeed a lifesaver in the worst of situations. Keep the spirit of relationships alive, no matter how near or far you might be. Count your blessings as they come, for they’ll help you see the days of the future.